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At the end of July .. Bill Jaques cottage rental was over ... but sometime in early August there was another massive party .. either in the same area as Bill's cottage or out in country somewhere .. I just can't remember ... we were all there .. all the individual party groups .. and we were well stocked with beer ... weed .. and hard liquor ... I took my guitar ... and ended up playing a bunch of Neil Young songs  ... Yvonne was there .. apparently my guitar playing and singing made an impression .. we all ended up staying there overnight .. passed out on the floor or chairs or couches ... and the next morning I drove Yvonne home .. by way of introducing her to 'The Beast' ... I have no idea why I did that ... 

By now I was very interested in this young woman who could party as hardy as we could .. and I sensed she was interested in me ... so .. the only time I ever asked a woman on a date in my ,life was when I asked Yvonne if she wanted to go with me to the Holiday Inn on a Friday or Saturday night in late August .. this would be 1975 ... she said yes ... but really this was just another night out for all of us because we were going to meet at the Holiday Inn anyway ... but really, I had asked Yvonne really to join Bill, RC and I ... 

Bill was clearly the leader of our little wandering party tribe ... and I guess what I was doing was seeing if Bill and RC would accept Yvonne as one of us ... and Bill did ... it was Bill that indirectly led me to Yvonne ... and his approval was important to me ... so after that .. Yvonne became part of our nomadic fun seekers .. and he christened her .. 'the dudess' ... 

So we continued to party on .. but gradually as Yvonne and I became friends ... I started to think about her in a different way ... we seemed to have a lot in common .. and I mean interests combined with issues ... hell .. our birthdays as it turned out were only 3 days apart separated by 4 years .. . at the time in August 1975 .. I would have been 25 ... Yvonne .. 21 ... 

Yvonne's parents owned two Pizza Delight franschises .. and she had told me stories about learning to make pizza ... so I bought a Kraft pizza kit .. and invited her to come to my apartment and make a pizza .. I just assumed it would relax her to do something familiar ... she got the dough to water mix wrong and then the light bulb in the stove exploded over the pizza ... it was something that would have happened to me ... it just endeared her to me more ... she still brings this up to this day ... just another sign to me that she was similar to me and therefore someone I just felt comfortable being around ... unknown to me at the time .. she felt exactly the same way ... 


Phil (16 January 2021 - San Patricio de Melaque - 7:53 PM)


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